If you want to get back with your ex, here’s how!
by Justin Sinclair
Have you broken up with someone because of a misunderstanding, an argument, or over something that really shouldn’t have caused a break up? Cause if you are then I can understand wanting to fix your relationship even if you had gotten pretty upset with them. There are a few methods you can take first is the active version and after the passive version.
Now to take the active approach and if your ex is willing to talk then this method should be the most straightforward, but if the heat of the last argument hasn’t cooled down between the both of you then it most likely will lead to another word fight. First, come to understand what the argument was about. Then, if the argument is something you regret and that you truly want to get back together then you need to express that with your ex. Now, they might not want to talk to you and still feel upset, but you should kindly tell them that the argument went way out of hand and anything you said wasn’t how you really felt and that you would want to possibly talk things over with them. Having sincerity in your words is far more important than pride at this point, but if they won’t give you time they certainly don’t deserve your attention.
Next we have is the passive method this one focuses solely on self evaluation and to get your ex to look at a fresh you. This one is probably the better option for both you and the entire relationship. The reason I say that is because if you look from how you were before, during, and after the relationship you gotta make some decisions based on how you feel towards yourself. Are you happy with who you are now? If not then you should choose this option, not only is it possible you’ll catch your ex’s attention, but you will feel better about yourself along with it. The steps for this method is easy. First, try changing your hairstyle to something you normally don’t do, but look good with.
Next, spice up your wardrobe with something new for instance try different colored shirts that might bring a different feel that isn’t usual for you. Now, the next step should be easier and something you need to think about less before doing and that would be to just hang out with your friends or some new companions and just enjoy yourself. Now the final step after separating any sad feelings and partly moved on from your ex if you still want to get back together. Talk to your ex with that new found confidence and bright appearance they just might jump at the chance to get back with you. This might make you happy to realize that your hurt feelings from the past are still there and the only reason your standing there now is because of how you feel towards them.
If you can’t get past all of the drama with your ex they might not be worth it and then its time to move on and if you take the passive method you will most definitely come out with less scars and a lot more hope for future relationships that you can work on with them and even decide some things up front to prevent past problems to reoccur. I hope my insight is useful for many situations and even help those that need to move on, because there is no fix all answer.
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If you have just gone through a breakup and want to get your ex back, there are some things you should do and other things that you shouldn’t do. If you’re texting game is good, you may be able to initiate contact with your ex. This all depends on how your breakup happened. If it was a nasty breakup, it’s almost always best to wait a few weeks before you contact your ex again. Also avoid falling into the “creeper zone” sometimes it’s just better to let the relationship go. You will have to judge this by your own relationship context. But, if you think there is a reasonable chance you can get back with your ex, there are some simple texts you can try in order to test the water. The following texts explain all the secrets to making up:
“Hey, I think we should talk sometime.”
The reason that this message is so powerful is because it is not too aggressive, yet sets a tone for the direction you want to take the relationship. You aren’t asking to go out on a date that night, you just want to re-establish the lines of communication. It doesn’t sound too needy and can show that you have matured (if that was an issue in the relationship). Furthermore, you let your ex know that you are still thinking about them and that they are still important to you.
” I want to know how you are doing.”
This is similar to the first text in the sense this it communicates that there is still interest on your part. By making the conversation focused on your ex, they will feel that you still care about them. In a particularly painful breakup, this can be very important. It’s important, as well, to not put your partner on the defensive when you are re-initiating contact. There should be no blame to go around. By focusing the on the positive aspects of your relationship, you will be more likely to gain the attraction that you first had for one another. If your ex is receptive to talking, you can even get more personal. Saying things like “I miss you” or ” I miss what we had” are ways to remind your ex that they are still important in your life. Furthermore, these kinds of statements can help heal hurt that your partners felt in the relationship.
“Hey, what’s up?”
While this may seem overly simplified and is by no means a “line”, it could be the most important thing you say to get your ex back. Anything that gets you talking with your ex again is a good thing, as it will likely reignite the initial things that attracted you to each other in the first place. By talking with your ex, you will increase the likelihood that you will get your ex back. The best part about this strategy is that you get to go at your own pace and build slowly. Healing a relationship takes time, and you are the best to judge how quickly it will take that relationship to heal. We have shared with you the secrets to making up, so give it a try today!
Of course, if things had been going well, she’d have believed the (truthful) explanation. A colleague getting overenthusiastic when we’d just won a big advertising pitch. It was hugs and kisses all round, I think I even kissed my boss, and he’s the father of four and built like a quarterback.
But things hadn’t been going well. We’d moved in together, and frankly we were driving each other mad.I love her like crazy, but I just wasn’t used to accounting for my actions, minute by minute. That girl loves to text. Every second of the day, where am I, what am I doing, what did I have for lunch, do you want steak for dinner – the constant texts made me feel like a prisoner under observation.
But after the fight, I missed them. I missed the almost continuous low “ting” that heralded a message coming in. I missed my phone come to that, and had to go get a new one. Fortunately, my plan let me have my old number.
No texts. Not one. So, I decided to reverse roles. I sent her texts, day and night. “I miss waking up with you.” “I heard our song just now and it made me cry.” “Are you lonesome tonight?” “My love is like a red, red rose.” Every cliche, every romantic memory, every song, every poem,every thing which had meant something to us, I texted it to her.
And not in text language. No – I used fully spelled out, beautifully punctuated English.
Finally, one day, my phone went “ting”. And it was her. “Yes, I do miss you.” I texted her straight back, “I’m so sorry we fought, I was an idiot.” Back she came. “I believe you about the lipstick.”
Then it just became too much, I dialed her number, and we talked, and then that wasn’t enough, so I literally ran to our old place, and she was waiting for me…..
She still texts a lot, but not as much as before. We had a good old fashioned face to face conversation, and I told her how I didn’t want to feel she was spying on me. We made an agreement to talk more and text less. 4 me its going gr8.
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